Reviews

Wish I had heard this sooner

When my spouse cheated, I dove head first into reconciliation. Therapists are by and large all in on victim blaming. Tracy and Sarah push back against the narrative that abused spouses caused their own abuse. They rightly put the agency in the hands of the bad actor. Tracy’s advice is spot on. This podcast is a breath of fresh air.

MU Warriors Fan
June 12, 2025

Andrew Marshall

You were forced to cave to his misogynist, entitled thinking. I understand how he manipulated you saying “Tracy’s clients are so much worse than mine”. Aargh!! This guy is the classic sweater vest therapist you talk about on your blog. I don’t know how you counteract his assessment that “every situation is different” mentality! I know you both tried but it’s an uphill battle. But we can’t stop trying to change the narrative! Cheaters are not redeemable…they don’t want to “do the work” that Andrew says is necessary (but never happens in reality). As you say, why would they want to change because cake is delicious! There might be a random one night stand cheater who regrets and redeems themselves but it’s .001% of the cheater population. Please don’t stop trying to explain what this is and how damaging it is to everyone involved. Thank you Tracy and Sarah for all you do!!

Mary Gallagher
May 4, 2025

Great podcast with a decent take on Betrayal

Love the guests, love the topics. Makes me feel validated

Kirsten Hartshorne
Oct. 22, 2024

No (w)reckonciliation here

Tracy Shorn and her no nonsense viewpoint saved me from wallowing in self pity after my husband abruptly left me for his secret mistress after 27 years of marriage. In this podcast, she and Sarah tell their stories and interview both experts and fellow chumps (victims of cheaters) for confirmation of the idea that cheaters are responsible for their own actions and the best choice is to find your mightiness and move forward to a new life without the cheater. If you have been cheated on, this is the podcast for you!

Redheadmom
Sept. 26, 2024

better than any therapist so far

Listening is helping me move forward. thank you

KK
July 23, 2024

Powerful group that no one wanted to join!

Processing the fallout of cheating (infidelity is too nice a word) is a soul-crushing walk though hot coals to get to the peace on the other side. The peace on that other side is what Chump Lady calls Tuesday and is what truly makes the survivor mighty. If life "takes a village", then this is the village one needs after discovering that you have the misfortune of being linked for life with a cheater, especially if you have bred with them. With wit, wisdom and millions of stories to back them up, Tracy and Sarah offer up various podcasts and interviews to complement the Chump Lady website. It all helps to support anyone navigating this terrible process.

Survival Is Real
July 2, 2024

No (w)reckonciliation here

Tracy Shorn and her no nonsense viewpoint saved me from wallowing in self pity after my husband abruptly left me for his secret mistress. In this podcast, she and Sarah tell their stories and interview both experts and fellow chumps for confirmation of the ideas that cheaters are responsible for their own actions and the best choice is to find your mightiness and move forward to a new life without the cheater. If you have been cheated on, this is the podcast for you!

Redheadmom
June 30, 2024

The only infidelity info you need

This is the only advice out there grounded in reality. Please listen if you have been cheated on.

Joe746894
June 28, 2024

I love this podcast!

Thank you for portraying cheating as it is and not trying to make excuses for bad character. Your book was amazing and so helpful to me in a time of need and your podcast has further helped me move forward.

mccastil
May 29, 2024

This brought me out of the dark fog into the light - and I've LAUGHED too!

I love it. The clarity I gained from hearing other chumps relating their FWs had used the exact same lines or deflections, blame shifting and nonsense justifications enabled me to see how effed up it all was. I played it on loop and laughed SO much at all the shameless Fuckwittery! I am off the floor, filed for divorce and standing up to the FW and planning my new life at 60! Thank you Tracy and Sarah and thanks Chump Nation for all the support and laughs!

Kate Martin
May 21, 2024

Amazing Podcast for Chumps!

It’s a club none of us want to be in, but yet here we are. The support from the podcast and Chump Nation has truly saved my life! Listening to these podcasts gets me through another week of realizing my FW is just that an FW and I am on this roller coast for life thanks to him. But thanks to Tracy and Sarah, I don’t have to ride alone! Thank you!!!

2thclnr87
May 6, 2024

10/10

Not even sure how i found this but so thankful.

jranos
April 13, 2024

Disappointing

The hosts clearly don’t understand the work of Esther Perel. The way they bash her is childish. If they would actually pay attention, she doesn’t EVER STATE she condones infidelity. She works with couples who WANT TO, BY CHOICE, try and salvage their marriage. Just because they don’t agree with someone’s practice/work shouldn’t give them the right to be disrespectful. Disrespect and trash talk is forms of abuse too. Whatever happened to respecting other people’s opinions and work? They may trash talk my comment and that’s ok.

regret staying there
March 26, 2024

So different and refreshing

I'm a chump man. For years I beat myself up over what I may have done that lead my wife to be unfaithful. Every website is so "save your marriage at all costs." To hear a different perspective gives me incredible peace of mind and helps reinforce my wise decision to divorce.

Eric
March 11, 2024

Need some clarity? Maybe a good laugh? THIS is your podcast!

Such a great show! If you’ve found yourself in the hazy maze of the aftermath of discovering infidelity this podcast will help you find a healthy perspective. It might even make you laugh. Too soon? Tracy and company will help you get there. THIS is the healthy, life affirming, sensible point of view. I’m very happy to have found Tracy’s excellent website and now the podcast.

Hikebikecook
March 2, 2024

Make this podcast and blog your post dday survival guide

5 years post D day yesterday. Didn't realize it until today because it does get easier. In fact, life after a cheater becomes more beautiful, more colorful, and more calm than you can imagine if you're in the storm right now. It doesn't happen at once. It isn't linear. But it happens. And it happens because of podcasts and blogs like this one. Forever grateful I found this community that got me to the other side.

krc1019
Feb. 21, 2024

A Godsend!

I don’t remember who exactly directed me to the Chumplady blog, but I know it was Providence! Her book saved my life, and her site encouraged me daily when I was in the thick of betrayal trauma hell. Even though I’m close to “meh”, I’m loving the podcast! Keep speaking the snarky truth, Tracey!!

Toocoolmama
Jan. 30, 2024

Finally someone speaking THE TRUTH around this abuse

Finally someone delving into this type of abuse. This is for the forever hopeful victims. If only more family court professionals would take some time to understand this perspective. Love the way these podcasts are so positive. Forward facing so the traumatized can finally move on and reclaim their life. Thank you Tracy !

Hello torre
Jan. 29, 2024

Changed my mind on cheating

I dated a cheater (he wasn’t cheating with me), and it was a revelation into the world of someone who was so duplicitous. Tracy gets it. Love this podcast that calls out bad behavior for what it is.

Foleydog
Jan. 20, 2024

These are the women you want in your corner when you're headed into battle...

Tracy Schorn, aka "Chump Lady," saved me in 2013 when I discovered my husband was living a double life. Amid the fog he created to keep me stuck, I found clarity and a path forward by reading and re-reading her smart, matter-of-fact, and hilarious website/blog. Now, she's paired up with the delightful Sarah Gorrell, and this podcast is just the thing to help you gain the necessary strength to leave a cake-eating, cheating spouse. Each week, Tracy and Sarah talk with survivors, trauma specialists, mental health experts, etc., and help their listeners gain insight and understanding. These women are the real deal, the kind of friends you need in your corner to set you straight and keep you moving forward so you can free yourself and live your best life.

Book_girl55
Jan. 2, 2024

Saved. My. Life.

I found ChumpLady (CL) in 2015 and have been an avid reader (now listener xoxo) since. I was divorcing the disordered and after finding CL and ChumpNation (CN) I found the information, community, and strength I needed to get out. “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life” is not a memo. It’s a movement! Betrayal is abuse: emotional, financial, spiritual. Thank you CL and CN. TaraBelle

TangoRomeoKilo
Dec. 21, 2023

Too female centric

I’m a fan of Tracey’s book but find the overall theme of the podcast focuses too heavily on the female aspect of being a betrayed partner. Both Tracey and Sarah seem to perpetuate this theme and make little to no attempt to ask betrayed male spouses into their show to find out what their experience has been with infidelity, divorce and deadbeat Mum’s.

Mark
Dec. 19, 2023

Hilarious and mighty Darlene!

Loved, loved, loved it! I was literally belly laughing listening to this podcast. The story about confronting the robber naked is quite the visual in my head. Such a positive, high energy and great speaker. Man, the jerk who left her made a massive mistake. Great questions from Tracey and Sarah, who always seem to ask what’s on my mind too. It was amazing! So glad I listened to that this evening, Darlene’s optimism about life is super contagious. Thank you all for this, very powerful podcast!

chumpasaurus45
Dec. 12, 2023

Found my tribe

The ladies are awesome! When I found out my husband was with another woman I immediately left, but I couldn’t find any online info about walking out & never coming back, until I found Tracey’s book. Thanks ladies. Keep moving forward & don’t ever look back on the FW.

rubeez67
Dec. 8, 2023